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Friday, November 14, 2008

Hot Wheels Review



















With two boys, I knew it wouldn't be long until we entered the world of Hot Wheels. Sure we had the cars, but we had yet to get one of the sets were the cars shoot off into some sort of track. Thus when the Parent Bloggers Network was looking for people to review the Triple Stunt Starter Set and The Power Loop Starter Set, I was immediately interested.

My kids liked both sets but they particular like the Power Loop Starter Set. Basically it's a long ramp that attaches to a clamp attached to a table or other high surface. We used a step stool. In case you're wondering, the clamp is included although one of my kids intitally ran off with it causing me to think that the clamp wasn't included. The car starts up high, and then goes underneath into a loop sending a second car actually through the loop which then goes into a battery operated power loop (it does have a manual mood) setting off another car to go through the motorized loop many many times before shooting off much to my kids delight. The only drawback to this one is that it only comes with one car when in fact you need three to have the whole thing work. I would say another down side if you don't like toys with batteries is that you need batteries, but again this toy has a manual mode.

The Triple Stunt starts with the car in the loop. You press the green button and the car shoots off down the ramp and intersects with a catapult. That where it's journey ends. However, like the other set, it sets off the next car which slides into a crane. This part is important. If you put a third car in the crane, when the second car hits the crane, the crane will drop the third car onto a lever which will release a fourth car that will go flying down the track. The problem is that this set also only comes with one car. On a positive note, you can rearrange the tracks to come up with your own combo so perhaps crane, followed by loop followed by straight track.

Overall, this has been a good toy. Although originally I was frustrated with the directions, once it was together it was well worth my time. I like that the sets are designed to work with multiple sets and that it encourages the kids to be creative with the track designs. I also like that they are easy for my kids to operate by themselves. A big drawback to me though was that each set only comes with one car and that your need that style of car to work in the set. I just wish it had been marked on the box particularly because since the sets each contained one car I thought the pictures in the directions were of that one car instead of multiple cars and thus added to my confusion.

Another tip would be that for the Triple Stunt Set that the green and red rubber bands are already installed which I know because I took apart the pieces looking for them. They include spare ones for replacements. Also the plastic tabs in the track slide into the next track; there's a set of what looks like rails on the bottom of each track. Just slide the tab in there and it will be secure. The green buttons are launch buttons and allegedly the red buttons are reset buttons for the Triple Stunt Set, but I never saw any red buttons.

When I was in my third trimester of my first pregnancy, my husband and I try to set up a Pack N Play. We just could not understand the directions. We even read reviews of the product where people complained about the same thing. After taking a few breaks from it over a couple day period, we were able to figure it out and we realized that actually it was quite easy to assemble. In fact once I tossed the directions aside and just looked at the picture on the box, it became a lot easier to assemble. That is the way I felt about these sets. I suspected that people who already owned Hot Wheels track sets would have no problem setting it up and read a review of this set where the blogger's child had no problem assembling it. After I set up the first set, it was much easier to set up the second set.

Would I purchase this toy as a gift? Yes, I would. Again, it was worth the frustation. However, I highly advise you look at the pictures on the boxes and to check out Kariana's review of it. She actually includes a video of her kids playing with it which is ultimately how I figured out how to work the Power Loop Starter Set.
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Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Positive Spin Review


It seems like there are a lot of holiday books out there. Good holiday books though seem hard to find. Seriously one year I got my older son (OS) what I thought would be a cute modern twist on the Twelve Days of Christmas using monsters. After the 5th day in the song, all the gifts were replaced with the word monster. It was neither creative nor fun to read.

When The Parent Bloggers Network was looking for people to review the Positive Spin holiday books, I was immediately interested. There were three books to review: All Hallows Eve The Story of the Halloween Fairy by Lisa and Tucker Johnson, Christmas Eve The Joy of Giving by Lisa Sferlazza Johnson, and Winters Eve Love and Lights also by Lisa Sferlazza Johnson. I have to admit the books were different than what I expected. The Tuckers are parents to a 4 year old girl. They came up with the idea for the Halloween book when they realized that they wanted their toddler to be able to participate in the fun and festivities of Halloween but not overindulge in candy. Their goals for the books are "helping children understand the world they live in, and creating a positive way for them to learn about it."

All three books star a fairy named Eve who can make tiny toys whom my boys just loved. I also liked Eve and more importantly I liked that Eve's theme was consistent through all three books. I also enjoyed the creativity of the books, particularly the Halloween book. It tells the story of a birthday celebration for Eve on Hallows Eve. Eve is upset that she can't make candy no matter how hard she tries, so her friends go around asking people for candy to surprise Eve. One fairy can't give Eve's friend Jack candy, but teaches Jack a trick - how to turn into a Jack-o-lantern. I took that opportunity to explain to my boys exactly what trick or treat means. I don't think OS had thought about it before then. I also enjoyed the way Eve decided to exchange toys for candy at the end of the book. I myself have previously bribed my sons with toys for candy and I felt like this book would lend itself to me embracing the idea of a Halloween fairy for whom the boys would leave candy to find toys in their place. In fact, the Positive Spin website states, “All Hallows Eve…has even led to a partnership between the Johnson family and the American Diabetes Association, whose joint goal is to offer healthy alternatives for children who can’t participate in the Halloween candy-fest."

The next book we read was the Christmas book. The boys liked this book too. It's a story about how Santa's elves are sick and so he needs Eve to help out. The story describes how the spirit of the gift counts rather than the size, because again Eve can only make small toys. The book emphasises how important gratitude is for gifts. Again, a nice story with a nice and consistent theme. There was plenty to talk about in this book. What caught me off guard, was that this book is religious. Now, coming as someone who is a Unitarian married to someone who is Jewish and thus looks for books on different religions for my kids, I am not offended by this. It is a small part of the book and is presented as a story rather than as an absolute truth. However, I am used to reading secular Christmas books to my kids. Hence the 12 Monsters of Christmas. Thus I was surprised when I read the part about the Lord Jesus being our king. It also made me wonder about Eve's name. When I carefully re-read the Halloween book, it remained clear to me that the name made sense because the first book is about Hallow's Eve and thus the fairy's name is appropriately Eve. My kids particularly liked another part of the Christmas story that depicted Santa as a young man.

The third book is about all different holidays around the world. This is the book that I found the most interesting. A variety of religious and non-religious winter celebrations are discussed, including Hanukkah and the Chinese New Year. While my kids listened to the book, it was their least favorite of the three. I think my 5 year old is simply too young for it. I suspect that in a couple of years it will be a good book for him.

What I liked about all three books was that the stories offered a lot of room for discussion. I liked the catchy rhyming. I also liked the background that went into each story like Eve not being able to make candy or Santa's sled being small but growing with each gift. I felt like a lot of thought went into these books. However, I feel I would be remiss if I didn't say again that despite the secular appearance of the Christmas book, it does have strong religious references. My kids have certainly enjoyed them and I would recommend them. You can purchase these books at amazon.com
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Thursday, October 23, 2008

Jooners Summary

Jooners is an organizational website aimed towards parents, but anyone can use it. It helps to organize all your different activities and events. The big question is how is it different than other organizational sites? A number of bloggers reviewed it, and here is some of what they had to say.

Suzanne wrote "When I first poked around on Jooners, I thought it was a neat idea. While it is mainly targeted to busy parents as a way to help them coordinate schedules and events, it is useful for any volunteer group or other entity that plans events. Participants can RSVP and, critically in my mind, let the other attendees know what food or beverages they will bring to the event. I've coordinated a lot of volunteer meetings in the past, and this would've been enormously helpful in ensuring that we did not wind up with 600 cupcakes but no salad, drinks, or napkins. (Not that there is anything wrong with an overabundance of cupcakes, but not everyone is down with empty sugar calories for dinner.) I think Jooners is more accessible than another program that I've used to organize big meetings, Basecamp."

Eucalayptus Pillow liked the way Jooners eliminated the need for repetitive emails to be sent. She wrote, "For instance, for the PTA craft fair that is coming up, I have some willing volunteers (a.k.a. “crazy moms”) to help me do anything from posting flyers to recruiting vendors. All I do is create an event on Jooners by clicking on a list of online planners. In my case, I clicked on “organize volunteers. I then fill in all the relevant information about my event and all of the necessary tasks. I then complete the initial planning process by importing all of my volunteers’ emails addresses, which can come directly from my web mail address book. And then Voila! I click on “send” so that an email alert is sent to my volunteers to pick a task they can help with. No unnecessary emails back and forth. It’s all in one place. And that way, everyone else sees what others are doing. So none of this whining like, “I wasn’t copied on the last email… I didn’t know Barb was managing the bake sale…. Whaa waa…”"

Whirlwind raved about Jooners, writing, "But Jooners, oh my god, is a dream come true for someone like me." Can't get a much better recommendation than that! She elaborated, "So having a good online calendar which allows me to contact other people is important. In the past, when planning a school party, I've asked for parents to send food or other items in. We all know what a pain this can be - you end up with people sending in the same items or forgetting. The same goes for soccer - we have parents sign up to bring a snack and usually they forget. Our last game, I had to send Husband across the street to the new grocery store to grab grapes. With Jooners, you make a list and send it to the people you want. So for instance, with my soccer team, I'd click on a pre-made snack duty list, enter in suggestions for snacks (grapes, oranges, watermelon) and then the dates needed and send it to the parents. Then they'd get an email asking them to sign up for a snack date (with no obligation to make an account!!!) and it would auto update. So no duplications! And they send reminders. As coordinator, I can just click on "Snack Duty" on my calendar to see who signed up."

Sally HP described the way Jooners can be used for a series of events, in addition to organizing one party. "I recently became chair of a committee that organizes meals and services for members who need them, and I really hope to find this an invaluable tool. If I set up a meal service and need 6 people to make meals on different nights, they'll just respond by clicking on the link in an email sent to them and signing up for what works. If you open up a free account, you don't even have to do the double work of writing what you signed up for in your own calender because Jooners will automatically add it for you, and then it sends reminders for that specific event in addition to a weekly calendar sent each Sunday for the following Monday through Saturday."

She also wrote about the resources section on Jooners. "Lastly, there is a resources section so that people can add people, places and services that make life easier, and then people can review those resources. So if you are looking for a caterer in your area, you can search them and read reviews in one spot. Resources cannot be deleted, which can be good and bad, but hopefully there would be enough balanced reviews to make an informed decision."

Whether planning a party or organizing a group for a whole series or year of events, Jooners can get everything into a calendar, track each person's responsibilities, and keep everyone informed and reminded. For parents and other busy people, it is an invaluable tool to get organized and stay organized.
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Friday, October 10, 2008

Once Upon a Potty Review

Once Upon a Potty by Alona Frankel (the boy version) was an instrumental book in potty training our older son (OS). He was fascinated by the story. In fact, when we bought him an anatomically correct boy doll to "potty train" we even named it Joshua after the main character in the book. For a while after OS was potty trained, we continued to read the book.

One of my friends swears that the reason her daughter was potty trained was because she listened to the Potty Song on the Once Upon a Potty CD. It was like it clicked for her. Or perhaps, it was just the timing, but either way the song made it fun.

Because of that, I was interested when The Parent Bloggers Network was looking for people to review the book and CD. This is the actually the 25th anniversary edition. It was first written for the author's son and apparently he produced the CD. The book was even better than the copy we already have. Why? Because it's a board book. Still not getting it? This book spent quite a lot of the time in the bathroom with OS so I liked the idea that with our Younger Son (YS) that we can wipe down the book if need be. Gross, but a reality of parenting. Plus I just think board books are better for little hands anyway because you don't have to worry about ripped pages or paper cuts.

YS did enjoy listening to the CD. It was fun for him to read the story out loud and he did flip through the book while listening to it. He's only two though so he wasn't necessarly looking at the pages in order! He also did enjoy the song.

Once Upon a Potty is available in a boy version with the main character being named Joshua and a girl version where the main character is named Prudence. The book is also written so that parents can substitute the words for #1 and #2 as well as private parts.
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Monday, September 22, 2008

Using Jooners

Last week I announced the I was looking for both bloggers and readers to join and review Jooners. Responses have been coming in. For the people who are willing to review Jooners, I decided to coordinate the reviews the same way I would host any other event using Jooners. I sent each of the interested people an invite to sign up for a Jooners event list. Participants were able to sign themselves up for a review slot. It went very smoothly.

I am responsible for organizing who brings snacks to my next moms group meeting. I used a Jooners snack sign up sheet to automate that. It was incredibly easy. My moms group uses a Yahoo groups list-serve. I uploaded the yahoo group to my Jooners address book, and in less than a minute it separated the group into individual addresses. Why is that important? I'll get to that in one moment. I used Event Planner to create my snack list. Originally I chose the pre-made Snack List without realizing that it was designed to enable people to take turns bringing snacks over a period of time. It would be perfect for parents taking turns bringing refreshments to little league games, for example. I needed several people to bring different snacks to a single meeting. I created a new list and entered the items I was requesting and the date for each item. I selected a single address from my Jooners address book...my moms group Yahoo group. Jooners sent the invitation to each person in the group individually. That means that each person only received an email reminder for the items that she signed up to bring. How cool is that?

I am not the only one who found it easy. I have heard positive reports from several of my readers. You do not need to sign up for a Jooners account to sign up on a list. If you are invited to participate in a list, you receive an email requesting that you click on a link for the sign-up sheet. You then type your name next to the item you are bringing. You do not need to sign up for an account to do it.

While many people are willing to create accounts of their own, they tend to be reluctant to use a system that requires others to create accounts. It's yet another login name and password to remember. However, that is not the case here. Once friends found out about that, they were pretty excited. In fact I heard from a few people that they were so impressed that they were going to go ahead and open a Jooners account after all to plan upcoming events. Did I mention again that this is a free service?

I'm still looking for reviewers and readers. Again, I will be raffling off prizes for people who participate. Please leave me a comment if you're interested.
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  • At October 5, 2008 9:55 AM, Anonymous Danielle said…

    Thanks for writing about Jooners. I recently discovered I'm the class mom (I volunteered a while ago and only found out now that they had picked me!) so this will come in handy for organizing activities and volunteer stuff.

     
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Ringling Brothers Review

I remember when I went to the circus. I was 5 years old and my mother signed me up for a community field trip. I was captivated by it. I loved watching all the animals and for weeks afterwards I would pretend that I was an acrobat on a trapeeze which was in reality the monkey bar on my swing set. I also remember that there was popcorn for most of the kids. Most kids didn't include me...my parents hadn't sent me with any money, but that's a story for another day. My husband also really enjoyed going to the circus as a kid. In fact he used to see Gunther Gable Williams, who was the famous animal trainer in Ringling Brothers every other year. As such we've discussed taking the our two boys to the circus. As luck would have it, Ringling Brothers is on tour again and specifically will be in Boston Wednesday, October 8 through Monday October 13th.

The good news is that Mom Central has teamed up with Ringling Brothers. Because it's Mom Central, not only do I have some good info for you on the show, but I also have a discount code and the possibility of winning tickets for you too!

To get the discount, simply go to the Ringling Brothers website, enter your zip code, select the date and enter the code MCC. You'll receive 20% off for the cities Boston, Denver, Cleavland, Chicago, St. Louis and Auburn Hills, MI.

Here's the better part. I have two prizes to give away. I am giving away tickets for a family of four to see the circus in Boston and a prize pack which includes a DVD of the show and a program. To enter this contest, please leave your name (and email address if you don't have a Blogger profile) in my comments section. I will select a winner on Tuesday Sept. 30th using random.org.
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  • At September 23, 2008 5:46 PM, Blogger Mommy to Tyler & Kendall said…

    The Circus rocks!

     
  • At September 23, 2008 6:04 PM, Blogger Jessica said…

    One of my earliest memories is a very fuzzy one of going to the circus. Mostly I remember that it was the first time I rode a train (the T to get to the circus)!

     
  • At September 23, 2008 8:22 PM, Anonymous Carol C said…

    I can remember being IN the 1976 RB&BB circus and riding around in the ring in a wagon - my brother was so jealous - he was too old to get to be in the wagon.

     
  • At September 23, 2008 11:24 PM, Blogger Sally HP said…

    H and C would LOVE the circus :)

     
  • At September 24, 2008 7:05 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Please pick us, I would love to scare my children with the chaos of the 3 rings and spend an incredible amount of money on unhealthy food and worthless trinkets.

    A mother of four well behaved and beautiful children.

     
  • At September 24, 2008 1:26 PM, Anonymous Lisa H. (aka Anna's Mum) said…

    I remember the cool souvenirs that you could purchase at RB&BB and, of course, the clowns. I have not been to the circus in such a long time and would love to go again.

     
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Mix 'n Match, Pop 'n Swap Blog Blast

The Parent Bloggers Network is doing a blog blast on interesting outfits your children have put together sponsored by Mix 'n Match, Pop 'n Swap. With a five year old and a two year old, I've seen my share of "creative" outfits!

Today my husband and I spent a good hour going through our boys clothes while they were watching a movie. Why did it take so long? The main reason is that my older son (OS)refuses to conform. Why wear long sleeve t-shirts when it's cold out when you can wear them when it's in the 90's outside? I got comments from his preschool teacher last year "I'm concerned that OS is cold." and comments from his camp counselors this summer, "I'm concerned that OS is too warm". It's such a fine line because I want OS to be able to pick out his own outfits. He has plenty of appropriate seasonal clothes to wear. At the same time, I do like to make sure that in the colder weather there are a few t-shirts in his dresser so that he can dress in layers and that there are a few long sleeve shirts in his dresser during the summer for the same reason. This is not even taking into account the clothes that are too small that he just loves despite the fact he looks like he just stepped out of Flashdance. Of course my younger son (YS) wants to dress just like his older brother.

This afternoon my husband and I removed all the too small clothes. We also made sure to only put out a few t-shits, but only a few t-shirts just in case. This way he can feel free to create his own outfits, but at the same time there's a limit to how many times he can wear short sleeve shirts in a week particularly at the rate that I do laundry. Plus I removed all the shorts! Let's just hope he doesn't figure out that the off season clothes are stored in bins in our basement!
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Sunday, September 14, 2008

Introducing Jooners: Prizes Available

As I wrote over on Formula Fed and Flexible Parenting, it can be hard to organize something even as apparently simple as signing up to bring someone a meal without getting a ton of emails. The last time someone in my church needed meals, I think I got about 10 emails from people hitting "reply all" so that everyone could see what they had volunteered to bring and on what date. Make no mistake here, they needed to hit "reply all" because otherwise Suzy Smith would have ended up with nine meals on July 6th.

The same challenge haunts those pulling together volunteer snack lists, coordinating carpools, and dividing up who brings what refreshments to each game, just to name a few. A company called Jooners has launched a site specifically targeted for parents (although it's really good for any group) to enable us to organize all these activities on-line. For example, let's say that I wanted to create a schedule for bloggers to review Jooners and write about it.
  1. I would create an account using the name Alex Elliot.
  2. I would click on the button called "Event Planner."
  3. I would call the event Jooners Review Post and list the dates that I wanted bloggers to post reviews of this site.
If a blogger wanted to participate, he or she would email me or comment on this post so I could use the Jooners email capability to send an invitation to the sign-up sheet I created. The blogger would then go and sign up for an available date. The blogger would also be automatically entered in a raffle drawing for an amazon.com gift card. That's right. I'm looking for people to sign up and review Jooners.

Not a blogger or want more chances to win? If you create an account to setup your own on-line list or event and let me know about it, you will also be entered into the lottery. While people do not have to join Jooners to sign up for a list that you create, if you share the names of those who do create Jooners accounts and sign into at least one of your lists, they are also eligible for a prize. Basically, that means you don't need to be a blogger to win, and if you are a blogger you can get two chances. The last thing to let you know, is that the more people who participate, the more chances to win.

Please email me if you have any questions. I would be happy to work with my fellow New Englanders in particular to help make this useful for you. If you know me in person, and are, for example, in my moms group, book club, or playgroup, I have specific ideas for ways that it can make some of our regular activities easier.

To recap there are three different ways to participate. You can any one of the following or all three:
  • I'm looking for bloggers and non-bloggers to create Jooners accounts and use Jooners to create a list, organize a group of volunteers, or plan an event
  • I'm looking for bloggers and non-bloggers to create Jooners accounts and sign-up for one of the lists, groups, or events someone else has created. Have the person email me so that I can verify that you signed up and participated and thus enter you in the raffle.
  • I'm looking for bloggers to write a review of your experience using Jooners

To participate, either leave a comment on this post with a way for me to email you, or email me at alexelliot (at sign) flexibleparenting.com.

Please let me know if you have any questions.
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Noodleboro Review

As the mother of a five year old, I'm always working on my son's manners. I want my older son (OS) to be polite not only because it's important, but because my two year copies everything that he does, right down to impolite language. I was intrigued when Mom Central announced that they were looking for bloggers to review Hasbro Noodleboro.

The idea behind the game is that you and your kids pretend to be on a picnic. The game comes with a plastic picnic basket, picnic item tokens, and a picnic blanket game board. Each player picks a color (if there are only two of you, each player picks two colors). The players need to collect all of the picnic items in their color. In the basket are circular chips that correspond with the foods on the boards. When it's the players turn, he politely asks if he can take a token from the basket. You need to reply that they may. They then say "thank you". If the token matches one of the items that they are collecting, they put it down on the matching space on the board. If not, they can place it on the center of the board and take another discarded token. Whoever collects the items to complete their picnic first wins. If a player continuously forgets his manners, the other players can ask him to return the token to the picnic basket and to try again the next turn.

My kids seemed to enjoy it. It's a pretty easy game with lots of opportunities to practice manners. My kids were quick to point out if I forgot to say "you're welcome" to them. Even my two year old was able to participate in this game. He did need gentle reminders to leave his tokens alone, and he also needed guidance deciding whether to keep a token or discard it. He had fun, though, which is what matters.

The game also came with a book and a CD called a Very Pleasing Picnic. The book tells the story of an impolite little girl named Rachel. Rachel and a group of kids have a picnic. The other kids are all very polite. Rachel decides that she would like to be an ant because ants don't have to say please and thank you so she waves her magic wand and become an ant. Rachel discovers that being an ant is not all that she hoped it would be, and she transforms back into a polite little girl. My kids enjoyed this story. The back of the books has tips for parents and the words to some of the songs on the CD. The CD also has some manners reminders, songs and an audio version of the story. It makes a chiming sound whenever the kids need to turn the page although my son listened to it without the book. In fact, they listened to it several times. Whenever the CD came on, multiple encores were requested. They particularly liked the story and the Please and Thank You & The Crabby Grabby Ant Song. That song also made my husband chuckle.
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Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Ready for the Day and Ready for Bed

Honestly what parent hasn't struggled at some point with morning or bedtime rituals? In our house we sometimes struggle with both. Hence I'm always on the lookout for kids books about going to bed. Maybe my kids will subconsciously get the message. I hadn't heard of a book about kids getting ready for the day, so I was intrigued when the Parent Bloggers Network looked for bloggers to review Ready for Bed A Tale of Cleaning Up, Tucking In, and Hardly Any Complaining and Ready for the Day A Tale of Teamwork and Toast, and Hardly Any Foot-Dragging both by Stacey R. Kaye. They are published by Free Spirit Publications which specializes in books that promote social and emotional well being.

I was expecting to read traditional story books for kids, with some sort of cutesy story about kids putting on pjs and getting all warm and cozy as they jump into bed at night and some sort of cutesy story about kids jumping out of bed and looking forward to a bright sunny day in the morning. These stories have far more depth. Not only do they provide a story line about the struggle between following ritual and doing what they are told, but they offer parenting examples about how to positively steer children through these transitions.

When my older son first decided to exert his own independence or in layman's terms, have temper tantrums, I was surprised how much easier it was to redirect him when I offered him two choices. Of course I got this advice from friends. Too many choices would overwhelm him, but two gave him (and me for that matter) a sense of control. This approach to parenting always seems easier said than done, which is why I enjoy seeing real world examples that remind me how I can personally follow this approach in real life. That's exactly what both of these books do. For example when Marco doesn't want to get ready for bed, his mother offers him a choice between swimming like a fish or flying like an airplane to get to bed. Similarly the dad offers Maya the choice of a shirt and shorts or a daisy dress when she doesn't want to get dressed.

In addition to providing me with new ways to present choices and new ideas for what choices I may offer, the books helped me focus on realistic parental responses that validate a child's feelings. There aren't any fairies or cuddly bunnies in these books. Instead, each book has a parent and a child interacting to go through a couple of daily rituals.

In the front of both books is a page that describes how words in the books are color coded to make it easy to identify phrases that validate feelings, offer choices or give encouragement. In addition, there are a few pages in the back of each book for the parents explaining how preschoolers process feelings and offering advice on supporting children through positive parenting. I liked that the characters in these books were African American, and I liked that they paired off a mother and son and a father and daughter.

The first time we offered to read these books, the kids did turn them down, and they protested when we put our feet down. They wanted to choose their typical books about bunnies and puppies. However, after listening to one story, both boys were excited to hear the second, and each one of them chose one of the books to take to bed. They were both a hit.
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